I remember reading somewhere that you should choose those people in your life who love you, not whom you love. But how can we segregate in real life? We all are so self-centered, we want everything for ourselves, we see everything as we picture it to be.
I really liked somebody and expected him to do so. All my life I have been telling my other friends that it is not necessary that if you like somebody they will like you back. When it came to me, I modified this rule. See it’s always easier to give suggestions, but adhering to them is very difficult.
I helped my best friend in every possible ways I could. When I didn’t get the same from her, I got frustrated. I felt that she didn’t value my friendship, probably she doesn’t.
I have been constantly thinking, “why is this happening to me, I am being so nice to them so why do they not respond in the same way, why do such people come in my life….” My mind has been filled with thoughts, and I didn’t know how to flush those thoughts out.
How many times have I used the word “I” in this writing, many times. I can see “I” all over. Can you omit the “I” from your life? NO! To us, nothing is more important than ourselves. He did that to me, she did this to me, my life is ruined because of this etc. For everything that happens, we have someone else to blame for. But the real culprit is you, yourself.
How many times do you think about yourself? Probably all the time. I am not different at all. My day starts with thoughts about myself and ends with my own worries. That’s probably the human tendency, I me and myself.
Other people’s choices are just as important as yours. If for you, you are the most important person in this world and the world should revolve according to your whims and fancies, so is their life important to them.
People have a life of their own. They have their own choices, just like you have yours. You respect their choices, and that’s it. Don’t expect them to respect yours. Life can’t be a give and take relationship always. For you your choices should be correct. Love someone if you want to, like anybody, care for anyone and do whatever you want; but don’t expect the other person to do so.